Relationship & Couples Therapy
This work is for couples who are ready to move beyond surface-level solutions and take an honest look at the patterns shaping their relationship. It requires a willingness to slow down, look inward, and engage with intention — not simply manage conflict or assign blame.
If you’re seeking quick communication tips or a referee for arguments, this may not be the right fit. This is structured, depth-oriented work designed to build real emotional connection and lasting change.
HOW CHANGE HAPPENS
The Big Picture
Couples therapy isn’t just about addressing what’s happening right now — it’s about building the capacity to relate differently over time. While each session makes room for what’s current, I work with couples through an intentional, structured process. Each phase builds on the last, helping partners move from reactive cycles into deeper connection, safety, and repair.
These phases aren’t rigid steps, but capacities we return to and strengthen over time as the relationship grows.
Common Relationship Patterns We Work With
While every relationship is unique, many couples come to therapy feeling stuck in familiar dynamics that repeat despite their best efforts. Some of the patterns include:
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Recurring conflict that never feels fully resolved
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Emotional disconnection or growing distance
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Difficulty repairing after arguments
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Pursuer–withdrawer or blame–defend cycles
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Feeling misunderstood, unseen, or emotionally alone in the relationship
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Loss of trust following breaches or unmet expectations
Our work focuses less on who is “right” and more on understanding the patterns that keep couples stuck — and helping partners relate to one another differently over time.
Reaching out for couples therapy can feel vulnerable. Most couples begin this process when they know something needs to change, but aren’t sure how to move forward or how to break out of familiar patterns.
My approach to couples therapy is intentional and structured. Rather than focusing only on the argument of the week, we work together over time to understand the patterns shaping your relationship and build the capacity to respond to one another differently — with more safety, clarity, and connection.
Getting started begins with an initial consultation. This first conversation helps clarify what’s bringing you in, identify the patterns that may be at play, and determine whether this approach — and this level of work — is the right fit for you both.
Couples therapy is most effective when both partners show up with openness, curiosity, and a shared commitment to staying engaged in the process, even when conversations feel uncomfortable.
GETTING STARTED IN COUPLES THERAPY
Who This Work is for?
This work tends to be a good fit for couples who:
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Are willing to slow down and stay present rather than rush toward solutions
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Are open to looking inward and taking responsibility for their part in the relationship dynamic
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Are willing to stay engaged in the process, even when conversations feel uncomfortable
Couples therapy works best when both partners are willing to participate fully and remain engaged over time.
Can Couples Therapy Save My Marriage?
Couples therapy isn’t about guaranteeing outcomes or convincing partners to stay together. It’s about slowing down the patterns that create distance, helping each person take emotional responsibility, and creating enough clarity and safety for honest change to occur.
For many couples, this leads to renewed connection and repair. For others, it provides clarity about what’s possible — and what’s not. Either way, the goal isn’t to “save” a relationship, but to support intentional, informed change rather than continued harm, confusion, or disconnection.